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how to forgive

7/17/2014

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Forgiveness is freedom
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A lot’s been written about forgiveness, its power to heal, put the past in its rightful place, and shine love in through even the most painful of closed doors.

There are
  • some excellent forgiveness quotes
  • specific prayers for forgiveness  (a personal favourite is the famous Serenity Prayer)
  • an educational charity The Forgiveness Project uses the real stories of victims and perpetrators to encourage healing alternatives to resentment, retaliation and revenge
  • this autumn, at Findhorn in Scotland, there’s even a week-long conference dedicated to the subject
Somehow, we all KNOW it’s the right thing to do. So what’s the problem with actually forgiving?

I can’t forgive
To forgive takes strength. Real strength of mind and heart to put peace and compassion above our upset and anger.

It doesn’t mean condoning what they did. It means accepting that they, just like you, are human and make mistakes.

You can forgive. It is our divine nature to forgive because, when truly humble, we realise we are united in ‘not knowing what we do.’ None of us are blameless, just as none of us cannot be redeemed by love.

When we forgive another, we not only set the other but ourselves free. It is a win:win situation; an ennobling act of selflessness.

But they don’t deserve it!
The sun shines on everyone; it doesn’t decide who deserves its light and who doesn’t. True love is unconditional. And until we ourselves have attained perfection, who are we to judge others?

They’re not sorry
Some people believe that if the person’s not remorseful they can’t be forgiven. Ouch.

This is not true. The (transformative, powerful) point is to forgive anyway. Love anyway. Be kind anyway. Choose forgiveness over being ‘right’ and inner peace will curl up in your lap.

I’ve already forgiven them
Forgiveness is many-layered. To say a prayer once, for example, is unlikely to release the negative tie between you and the other. It usually takes several attempts – perhaps over years, especially if the bitterness/anger/resentment is long-held.

Like Rodin creating The Kiss, keep chiselling away at your hardness of heart until the heavenly beauty of pure love reveals itself from inside your inner block (there all along, waiting for you to find it).

How will I know when I’ve really forgiven them/myself?
When you can think of the person – or meet/talk to them – and not react but remain neutral. Or perhaps the initial reaction is to contract and start feeling negative but that soon dissipates either of its own accord or through you willing yourself to be calm.

In larger view…
When you view life as eternal, forgiveness is the only thing that makes sense. To bear grudges is a kind of childishness, for to hurt one another is a natural part of human life.

Our wounds help us grow wiser and stronger. To truly forgive is to press ‘fast forward’ on the evolutionary path. Forgiveness is freedom.


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    • Recipes >
      • Quick Vegan Carbonara
      • Lentil & Chard Lasagne
      • Vegan Lasagne
      • Orange + Ginger Tofu
      • Vegan Spinach & Cream Cheese Cannelloni
      • Fruit & Choc Dessert Smoothie
      • Vegan Cottage Pie
      • Vegan Pad Thai
      • Blueberry & Melon Smoothie
      • Sweet & Sour Tempeh Veg Stir Fry
      • Paprika Roasted Broccoli & Cauliflower
      • Chorizo Bolognese
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